I'm going into quite a lot of detail about MBM because in the UK people usually don't know very much about MBM.

The distress of infertility is huge but of course you knew that. Many people who have not been there themselves would be shocked to know that infertility causes similar levels of distress to being diagnosed with a major life-threatening illness or of having someone you love die.

Infertility treatment is also distressing. The commonest reason for giving up IVF before you have conceived is not the expense (if you are paying for it) but the distress it causes, although only about 25% of people starting IVF think it is going to be that stressful.

This level of distress is a bad enough experience in emotional terms, but unfortunately stress has physical effects too. Emotional distress, for example, disturbs the GnRH pulse which controls the LH/FSH cycle and may interfere with immune responses, to name but two consequences.

Certain physical stressors like having a low BMI (or very high one) or doing too much physical exercise ('too much' in fertility terms can be surprisingly little for some people) may also disturb fertility, especially in conjunction with emotional stress.

MBM addresses issues like these and more. It is so effective because it is a multi-targeted approach. Research shows MBM is far more effective in helping you get pregnant than counselling or relaxation training.

MBM addresses issues like these and more. It is so effective because it is a multi-targeted approach. Research shows MBM is far more effective in helping you get pregnant than counselling or relaxation training.

With all this to deal with it will be a relief to know that most people find MBM is a surprisingly pleasant and light-hearted experience - and useful in many other situations too.

A multi-targeted approach
One of the first things I do is show you is how to manage those thoughts of sadness and hopelessness which go with repeatedly not getting pregnant. It is vitally important to do this because your repeated negative thoughts may convert into chemical and electrical signals which will affect systems in the body directly linked to conception.

I'm sure people have told you to 'just think positively'. If you could, you would have done it long ago, wouldn't you? But it's surprisingly difficult to do this without help.

MBM shows you effective ways of spotting how and when these thoughts